S P R I N G 2 0 1 8 O FA F E L LO W S L E A D E R S Part 2: Emotional

S P R I N G 2 0 1 8 O FA F E L LO W S L E A D E R S Part 2: Emotional Bobby Brady-Sharp / OFA Training Projects Manager intelligence We will begin the training at 8 p.m. ET / 7 p.m. CT

SPRING 2018 Fellows Leaders

Guided worksheet Week 2 Bit.ly/ training2worksheet

G OA L S F O R T H I S S E SS I O N Understand the concepts of emotional intelligence and agility and how they relate to leadership

G OA L S F O R T H I S S E SS I O N Apply these concepts to your own self-awareness and identify growth opportunities as a leader

G OA L S F O R T H I S S E SS I O N Feel prepared to stretch your comfort zone as you practice applying these concepts in your life

Agenda Introduction Defining emotional intelligence 12 competencies—Daniel Goleman Emotional agility Key takeaways and close

Logistics We will meet for 90 minutes You will need a pen and paper or means of taking notes A recording of this call will be available later this week. Please tweet -- #OFAFellows

Housekeeping items

Defining emotional intelligence

“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does R O S A PA R K S away with fear.”

“Anyone can become angry —that is easy.”

“But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way— that is not ARISTOTLE easy.”

The word “emotion” It comes from the latin verb, motere Motere “to move” The prefix e connotes “to move away”

Emotion: Feelings, thoughts, psycological/biologi cal states, and a range of propensities to act. (Goleman, Emotional Intelligence, 289, 1995)

Ranges and basic families of emotion (Goleman, 289-290) Anger Sadness Fear Enjoyment Love Surprise Disgust Shame

Emotional intelligence: The ability to perceive and express emotions to facilitate thinking (Mayer, Salovey, & Caruso, 2000)

Emotional intelligence: to understand and reason with emotions (Mayer, Salovey, & Caruso, 2000)

Emotional intelligence: and to effectively manage emotions within oneself and in relationship with others (Mayer, Salovey, & Caruso, 2000)

Why is this important to leadership?

12 COMPETENCIES Emotional intelligence

SelfAwareness Emotional SelfAwarenes s 12 competencies of emotional intelligence – Daniel Goleman

SelfAwareness SelfManageme nt Emotional SelfAwarenes s Emotional SelfControl 12 competencies of emotional intelligence – Daniel Goleman Achievem ent Orientatio n Positive Outlook Adaptabili ty

SelfAwareness SelfManageme nt Social Awareness Emotional SelfAwarenes s 12 competencies of emotional intelligence – Daniel Goleman Emotional SelfControl Achievem ent Orientatio n Empathy Organizatio nal awareness Positive Outlook Adaptabili ty

SelfAwareness SelfManageme nt Emotional SelfAwarenes s 12 competencies of emotional intelligence – Daniel Goleman Emotional SelfControl Achievem ent Orientatio n Social Awareness Empathy Organizatio nal awareness Relationshi p Manageme nt Influence Coach and Mentor Positive Outlook Adaptabili ty Conflict Managem ent Inspiratio nal Leadershi p Teamwork

15 Breakout: Read, minutes reflect, discuss Take 5 minutes to read through the definitions of each competency Take 10 minutes to list and discuss which competencies you need to improve in order to become more emotionally intelligent and a better leader (write them on your worksheet) Worksheet: Bit.ly/training2worksheet

Discussion What competencies do you need to improve in? Which ones do you excel at?

Emotional agility

“I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.” FA N N I E LO U H A M E R

Emotional agility In 2016, Susan David, PHD, wrote the book “Emotional Agility,” building off of emotional intelligence In it, she theorized that people become hooked by their emotions, leading to bad decisions

Hooked: Internal chatter technicolor memory emotional punch (Susan David, Emotional Agility, 2006)

Emotional agility Being hooked leads to emotional rigidity, which plays out in our heads as “I’m not cut out for this ” “I’m ugly ” Biases Even racism

Emotional rigidity: Patterns/ways in which our thoughts, emotions, and stories drive our actions in rigid (Susan David, Emotional Agility, 2006)

Emotional agility Being hooked leads to emotional rigidity, which plays out in our heads It is with emotional intelligence and the process of emotional agility that we can become unhooked!

Emotional agility: The process that allows you be present in the moment and feeling (Susan David, Emotional Agility, 2006)

Emotional agility: And change/maintain your behavior in response to feelings in the moment (Susan David, Emotional Agility, 2006)

Emotional agility: So that you can live in ways that align with you (Susan David, Emotional Agility, 2006)

The process of emotional agility

T H E P R O C E SS O F E M O T I O N A L A G I L I T Y: Step 1: Show up

Show up Don’t run!—Face emotions and behaviors willingly Be curious as to what you’re feeling and thinking Learn to work with your thoughts Recognize your patterns —know when you’re rigid or have repetitive thinking

T H E P R O C E SS O F E M O T I O N A L A G I L I T Y: Step 2: Stepout

Step-out Become an anthropologist – detach from your thoughts and emotions Name the emotion and the thoughts it is causing you to have Recognize your emotion as “critical data”— recognize that it may not be leading you to the right conclusion

T H E P R O C E SS O F E M O T I O N A L A G I L I T Y: Step 3: Walk Your Why

Walk your why Focus on your core values and most important goals by asking these questions: Is my response going to serve me and my organization in the longterm as well as shortterm?

Walk your why Focus on your core values and most important goals by asking these questions: Will it help me steer others in a direction that furthers our collective purpose?

Walk your why Focus on your core values and most important goals by asking these questions: Am I taking a step toward being the leader I most want to be and living the life I most want to live?

T H E P R O C E SS O F E M O T I O N A L A G I L I T Y: Step 4: Make tweaks, Move on

12 Breakout: minutes Practice Take 2 minutes and think of a situation that “hooks” you Write that situation down on your worksheet Resources: Worksheet: Share the situation with you partner Bit.ly/training2workshee – walk through the 4-steps of t emotional agility with your situation 4-STEPS: in mind and come up with a 1. SHOW UP response 2. STEP OUT 3. WALK YOUR WHY 4. MOVE ON

Debrief What is your biggest takeaway?

Debrief How do you think your biggest key takeaway applies to how you’ve been applying leadership in your organizing work?

Debrief How will you begin to actively work on revising your responses to situations this week and through this program?

H O M E W O R K A SS I G N M E N T Week 2 Bit.ly/ training2worksheet

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